By Rochelle Brenner

One of the most influential people in my life was a man named Brant “Dreamtyme” Skyler.

He was my boxing trainer and a professional fighter. June 1, 2021 marks 8 years since he died.

Whenever I’m asked to sign someone’s belt, I draw a happy face at the end in tribute to him. He signed his name that way. He was the smiling warrior. He was in my corner the day I won my national championship. He was in tears the times I lost it. I hear his voice in my head all the time during my training - Keep going. You’re not done yet. I’m 12 days away from testing for my 3rd degree black belt and I think about him a lot.

On the anniversary of his death, I’m reminded of many of the things he taught me that I carry with me in life as a martial artist. I wanted to share 8 of those simple phrases that profoundly impacted me and I hope they will also resonate with you.

1. You can always do more than you think you can

2. You have to give things up to get what you want

3. Stop lying to yourself

4. Never do anything just for the money

5. If you’re around people and you don’t like how they are, get out as fast as you can because eventually you will start acting like them

6. That’s just an excuse

7. Embarrass your child at all opportunities

8. Listen to the people in your corner